Its indeed a positive feeling of being liked, cared and loved. Of course, we all would feel high and on cloud number nine when someone loves us and cares for us and above all expresses these emotions towards us. We humans are social organisms and cannot live alone, if we do, we might be heading to the Guinness book of records!
I have come across people who find it so easy to express their love and affection and have wondered how the hell are they able to bring out their feelings and emotions by their words and physical gestures. I have also found out through my pretty little experiments that it does makes a lot of difference when you express your affection physically. Imagine, your love sitting next to you, expresses a discomfort, what would you do? Imagine this scene is set in one of the restaurants that you have visited for the first time in your neighborhood. Well, you might begin with "Are you alright? Its Ok. Lets go home and you could relax there. I'll prepare your favourite coffee with scrambled eggs" etc etc etc.
But how does your love take this? Well ask him/her. But imagine this - the same scene, you just hold hands, whisper those three words that we all eagerly wait to hear from our loved ones, whisper "I Love You". Assure that you are there and nothing will go wrong and things can be sorted out. Do this with a lot of emotion. I bet there is a huge difference.
Being a trainer, I always have taught my trainess that the words we use carry just 18% result whereas 82% is the emotion that we fill and the body language we use while talking. I have seen them all pumped up with emotion and can see their facial expressions changing and their hands gesturing in unison with what they are talking. A good sight!
Your words and body language make a lot of difference for sure when it comes to handling situations where you and your loved one are involved. Well, I believe there are many situations in life when your looks, hugs, gestures of affection would communicate a lot that are much more powerful than your words. Language has its own limitations. This is for sure. No wonder there are numerous experiments carried out to understand how our minds understand the affection shown through body language. Its an amazing study. I would rather start doing it, start expressing my love through gestures and words filled with love & emotions. There is nothing to lose. Afterall, you are contributing to the relationship that you care about and value for.
What are you waiting for then? Go on and start expressing.
I have come across people who find it so easy to express their love and affection and have wondered how the hell are they able to bring out their feelings and emotions by their words and physical gestures. I have also found out through my pretty little experiments that it does makes a lot of difference when you express your affection physically. Imagine, your love sitting next to you, expresses a discomfort, what would you do? Imagine this scene is set in one of the restaurants that you have visited for the first time in your neighborhood. Well, you might begin with "Are you alright? Its Ok. Lets go home and you could relax there. I'll prepare your favourite coffee with scrambled eggs" etc etc etc.
But how does your love take this? Well ask him/her. But imagine this - the same scene, you just hold hands, whisper those three words that we all eagerly wait to hear from our loved ones, whisper "I Love You". Assure that you are there and nothing will go wrong and things can be sorted out. Do this with a lot of emotion. I bet there is a huge difference.
Being a trainer, I always have taught my trainess that the words we use carry just 18% result whereas 82% is the emotion that we fill and the body language we use while talking. I have seen them all pumped up with emotion and can see their facial expressions changing and their hands gesturing in unison with what they are talking. A good sight!
Your words and body language make a lot of difference for sure when it comes to handling situations where you and your loved one are involved. Well, I believe there are many situations in life when your looks, hugs, gestures of affection would communicate a lot that are much more powerful than your words. Language has its own limitations. This is for sure. No wonder there are numerous experiments carried out to understand how our minds understand the affection shown through body language. Its an amazing study. I would rather start doing it, start expressing my love through gestures and words filled with love & emotions. There is nothing to lose. Afterall, you are contributing to the relationship that you care about and value for.
What are you waiting for then? Go on and start expressing.
1 comment:
hmmm.. gestures surely is an important aspect.
Your loved ones know within that you love them and they are close to your heart. But with the passing phase of life it is important that you show it off thru actions; and most importantly through those Specific Gestures that 'they' relate to. Its a tiresome task ofcourse, and many a times we would consider its better to just avoid putting that much of an effort.
But I would say that is what is relatioships all about - understanding the needs of each other and tending to them (in a way that makes the other one happy and contented) so that when Life take its turn, all of them'll be there around you, to tend to You and hold You close.
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